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Desire.guru is back!!!

Holy rapidly changing reality Batman! Yeah, I am embracing my inner (and not so hidden) nerd! But that is part of what makes me Me and since I decided a long time ago to be honest here, this is exactly what I am and what I am going to be. Talking of rapidly changing reality. What happened to DG (desire.guru) …

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How to bring sex into dating?

This is another one of those questions that come up often in our coaching. “How do I bring up sex on a first or second date?” or “How do I take the date to the bedroom either tonight or down the line?” or even “How do I talk about sex with someone and not scare them away?” And I get …

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Making LOVE to the World!

What if you treated the world like a dear lover? Caressing it, tending to every detail, loving it with all your heart. I’ll tell you what happens. Life becomes MAGICAL. But how do we get ourselves to the place of loving a world that is often hostile, irrational & destructive? And WHY would we even want to do such a …

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Sex Education in American schools. Is it really to educate or is it actually to oppress?

“Nature and culture, instinct and morality, sexuality and achievement become incompatible as a result of the split in the human structure. The unity and congruity of culture and nature, work and love, morality and sexuality, longed for from time immemorial, will remain a dream as long as man continues to condemn the biological demand for natural (orgastic) sexual gratification.” – Wilhem …

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Getting the sex you want. From a woman’s perspective.

I stepped outside this morning (11am, really) onto the balcony; half aching from yesterday’s workout and fully not giving a shit how I looked. Coffee in one hand, phone in the other and covered only by my ridiculously nerdy wizard robe that my husband somehow convinced me to buy at Target. I stepped out and as soon as I did, …

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A week of sex-geekery and brainsex

Wow, what a week. I am finally back in Portland after spending the last week out in the woods in West Virginia. Why did I do that? Because it felt like the next right step and after having been there I can say: Fuck yes, it was the right step. Now you are probably wondering what I did in the …

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How your ANS may be running your sex life

  My love life looks like some sort congressional session; Constant debating and disagreeing. And if I do somehow achieve to get all the parts of my mind plus my body in agreement, some piece has to jump up and say, “Oh yeah, I also need to make this point!…” Incongruency. The story of my internal life. Some Basic Biology …

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What Is Next?

Have you ever sat there and asked yourself that question? I did in the past and I am doing it right now. The answers range from super exciting: I will keep building desire.guru. I will add FuckU to the mix. I will get my first free online course up this week. to less exciting: I want to pay off my …

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Are You Running On Shame And Guilt?

Do you have this nagging feeling that you are doing something wrong? Or did something wrong? That people around you will be upset? That it is too good to be true? That the other shoe will drop any second now? I had these feelings pretty consistently for most of my life. And they still come up from time to time …

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The Things I Wish I Would Have Been Told About Sex

This morning I woke up but as it happens on some days, I was just too lazy to jump out of bed. So instead I rolled over and let thoughts drift through my head. It’s a great time for that. I just sit back in my own head and see what drifts by. And because everything is all lazy and …