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How to bring sex into dating?

This is another one of those questions that come up often in our coaching. “How do I bring up sex on a first or second date?” or “How do I take the date to the bedroom either tonight or down the line?” or even “How do I talk about sex with someone and not scare them away?” And I get …

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Getting the sex you want. From a woman’s perspective.

I stepped outside this morning (11am, really) onto the balcony; half aching from yesterday’s workout and fully not giving a shit how I looked. Coffee in one hand, phone in the other and covered only by my ridiculously nerdy wizard robe that my husband somehow convinced me to buy at Target. I stepped out and as soon as I did, …

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RTFM (Read The Fucking Manual) – Part 2

In this post over here, I talk about writing your own user manual. I actually heard about the idea from Cunning Minx who runs a polyamory blog and podcast called Polyweekly. I believe writing your user manual is a fantastic idea. So I decided that I will use it as a tool in one of my future relationship workshops. When …

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Why Is There No Manual For You?

In an upcoming workshop on relationship communication I am going to talk about writing our own “user manual”. There are several reasons why I think this is a) an important exercise and b) an important communication tool. In this post I am just talking about the why and give you some tips on the how and in a post down …

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Up And Down The Ladder (Of Abstraction)

My grandmother always advised me never to walk under a ladder because it brings bad luck. And I watched enough cartoons to know that you usually end up with a bucket of paint over your head if you don’t follow grannies advice. While I didn’t make any special effort to avoid ladders, there is one I never saw coming and …