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Making LOVE to the World!

What if you treated the world like a dear lover? Caressing it, tending to every detail, loving it with all your heart. I’ll tell you what happens. Life becomes MAGICAL. But how do we get ourselves to the place of loving a world that is often hostile, irrational & destructive? And WHY would we even want to do such a …

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Getting the sex you want. From a woman’s perspective.

I stepped outside this morning (11am, really) onto the balcony; half aching from yesterday’s workout and fully not giving a shit how I looked. Coffee in one hand, phone in the other and covered only by my ridiculously nerdy wizard robe that my husband somehow convinced me to buy at Target. I stepped out and as soon as I did, …

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A week of sex-geekery and brainsex

Wow, what a week. I am finally back in Portland after spending the last week out in the woods in West Virginia. Why did I do that? Because it felt like the next right step and after having been there I can say: Fuck yes, it was the right step. Now you are probably wondering what I did in the …

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How your ANS may be running your sex life

  My love life looks like some sort congressional session; Constant debating and disagreeing. And if I do somehow achieve to get all the parts of my mind plus my body in agreement, some piece has to jump up and say, “Oh yeah, I also need to make this point!…” Incongruency. The story of my internal life. Some Basic Biology …

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What Is Next?

Have you ever sat there and asked yourself that question? I did in the past and I am doing it right now. The answers range from super exciting: I will keep building desire.guru. I will add FuckU to the mix. I will get my first free online course up this week. to less exciting: I want to pay off my …

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Are You Running On Shame And Guilt?

Do you have this nagging feeling that you are doing something wrong? Or did something wrong? That people around you will be upset? That it is too good to be true? That the other shoe will drop any second now? I had these feelings pretty consistently for most of my life. And they still come up from time to time …

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Boundaries: How to set them and what to keep in mind

We all have boundaries to protect our physical or emotional well being. While some are implied, others need to be verbalized for others to understand them. It is an important step in our self care. Let’s look at a very clear example of a boundary. You live in a house or apartment. Your boundary is the door. You expect people to …

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Graduation Advice To Myself

I was sitting in front of my computer trying to decide what I am going to write on today. I have a bunch of topics lined up that I really want to talk about. So I was going back and forth planning to write either about boundaries or my user manual. When I couldn’t make up my mind, I checked …

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Leaning into an edge

This is a very personal post today. I am currently leaning into an edge that I was not aware of in the past. I recently became aware of all the baggage I carry around with me surrounding it and I am writing a little about said baggage in this post. I am a recovering Nice Guy. I have done a …

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Jealousy (And 9 Steps To Deal With It)

I believe there are very few adults out there that have not experienced jealousy at one time or another. And we have so many expressions for it: “The green eyed monster”, “like a cancer in the bones”, “jealousy is a disease”, “a jealous woman is a faithful woman”, etc. The list goes on. And it’s all just trying to express …