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The Things I Wish I Would Have Been Told About Sex

This morning I woke up but as it happens on some days, I was just too lazy to jump out of bed. So instead I rolled over and let thoughts drift through my head. It’s a great time for that. I just sit back in my own head and see what drifts by. And because everything is all lazy and …

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Digging Deep – Your Own Sexual History

In all the free lectures / discussion groups I run, I always ask for feedback. I want to know what people took home from the class and what they think could go better. I also want to know what topics they would like me to cover in the future. One thing keeps coming up without fail every time from someone: …

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Dating 2 (of 3)

I mentioned in a post a while back that I keep posting about the dating series events that I run at the moment. In Dating 1 (of 3) I talked about the exploration of why we date and the limiting beliefs that get in the way. In the next installment of the series I am talking with everybody about needs, …

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Boundaries: How to set them and what to keep in mind

We all have boundaries to protect our physical or emotional well being. While some are implied, others need to be verbalized for others to understand them. It is an important step in our self care. Let’s look at a very clear example of a boundary. You live in a house or apartment. Your boundary is the door. You expect people to …

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RTFM (Read The Fucking Manual) – Part 2

In this post over here, I talk about writing your own user manual. I actually heard about the idea from Cunning Minx who runs a polyamory blog and podcast called Polyweekly. I believe writing your user manual is a fantastic idea. So I decided that I will use it as a tool in one of my future relationship workshops. When …

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Graduation Advice To Myself

I was sitting in front of my computer trying to decide what I am going to write on today. I have a bunch of topics lined up that I really want to talk about. So I was going back and forth planning to write either about boundaries or my user manual. When I couldn’t make up my mind, I checked …

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Leaning into an edge

This is a very personal post today. I am currently leaning into an edge that I was not aware of in the past. I recently became aware of all the baggage I carry around with me surrounding it and I am writing a little about said baggage in this post. I am a recovering Nice Guy. I have done a …

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Jealousy (And 9 Steps To Deal With It)

I believe there are very few adults out there that have not experienced jealousy at one time or another. And we have so many expressions for it: “The green eyed monster”, “like a cancer in the bones”, “jealousy is a disease”, “a jealous woman is a faithful woman”, etc. The list goes on. And it’s all just trying to express …

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Let’s Talk Condoms

Yes, I know, it’s a topic that has been discussed a lot. So I won’t bore you with the effectiveness stats and proper use and whatnot. What I want to look at today is the difference in material, thickness and size that you can find. This is a conversation that came up during one of the last open relationship discussions …

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Why Is There No Manual For You?

In an upcoming workshop on relationship communication I am going to talk about writing our own “user manual”. There are several reasons why I think this is a) an important exercise and b) an important communication tool. In this post I am just talking about the why and give you some tips on the how and in a post down …