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A Curveball Reminder

What happens when life throws you a curveball? All my business coaches and teachers always repeated one mantra: It isn’t about how many times you get knocked down, it is about how many times you get back up and keep going. I know this mantra by heart. I agree with it fully. And I have not followed it. I don’t …

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Up And Down The Ladder (Of Abstraction)

My grandmother always advised me never to walk under a ladder because it brings bad luck. And I watched enough cartoons to know that you usually end up with a bucket of paint over your head if you don’t follow grannies advice. While I didn’t make any special effort to avoid ladders, there is one I never saw coming and …

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The Practice Of Relationship

Do you have something that you do regularly in a mindful way even if you don’t feel like doing it? Maybe you know this moment: You f***ing HATE doing what it is you are doing but you know it also feels really good on some level and you know it is good for you and halfway through doing it you …

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Dating 1 (of 3)

As promised in my last post I outlined my first evening lecture/meeting/discussion group on dating and, also as promised, I am sharing the information here with you. We live in a society that tells us we are broken somehow if we are single. So we throw ourselves into a relationship or marriage just so we can feel normal in the …

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Dating – What’s Up With That?

When I gave our last lecture, I asked people for feedback. I wanted to know what they liked and what they didn’t like, what they learned and also what topic they would like to have covered in the future. And one request that came from several sides was “Dating”. I shrugged and moved on. And then I got thinking and wondering …

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Dating, Intimacy or Romance?

That is the question I am asking myself right now. Not so much in my own life – I go for all 3. This is about the next lecture I am giving here in Portland on May 21st and I have yet to decide on a topic. Yesterday we kicked off the event series, aptly titled “Sex, Relationship, Intimacy – …

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Why Can’t We Just All Be Sluts

  This morning I read a facebook post in one of my groups. It was posted in a co-ed group that is concerned with masculinity and what it means to be a man. In this group, somebody posted the above picture, which is taken from yesterday’s Wall Street Journal. It did spark some interesting debate. As expected, the biggest points …

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Start With Why

Tomorrow I am holding my first lecture under the Desire.Guru business name. I am so excited and I am also terrified. I talked in my very first post here about the pressure I feel around the name Desire.Guru. I could let it go somewhat by changing my thought patterns on the matter but the closer I get to the actual …

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A Weekend In San Francisco

I am in a coaching program to, who would have guessed, deepen my coaching practice. It is over the course of 6 months with monthly immersions and one just ended and I got back to portland yesterday around noon. To save money, I drive down to SF. I start out on Thursday morning and then drive for about 11 hours …

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Starting A Business Called desire.guru

Last Saturday some people of a community I belong to were having a little social potluck. I was there and I brought mac’n’cheese and veggie lasagna. Not the homemade kind (I want to say I was too busy but honestly, I was too lazy to make anything) but at least the Wholefoods kind. When I got there, Only 2 other people …